Lady Bird (A24) is an exceptional movie from 2017 (2002 if you’re in the movie) that is about the relationship between a girl, her poor family, and her turbulent mother. Her relationship with her mother is what drives the film home and makes it something truly special. If you or anyone you know has a difficult relationship with a parent or even a family member, then you understand how problematic Lady Bird’s mother is. She is verbally abusive and this is what sadly drives Lady Bird to do what she does throughout the film.
This film is important. No matter the year, this film is important. We just can’t get away from Timothée Chalamet, can we? We aren’t complaining, but in the year of Timothée, we also got Saoirse Ronan, who provided a galactic performance from the film Lady Bird. While we disliked Laurie Metcalf‘s character Marion (in a good way), Metcalf’s performance was heavenly as well. She performed a comprehensive representation of the character she was intended to perform, which is what made it hit too close to home for some.
“Lady Bird Was Given By Myself To Myself“
What I love about Lady Bird is the sense of accountability. Marion McPherson, the mother figure throughout the film, is an abusive mother. She is a mother that shouldn’t have been. Whether you have a mother like this yourself or know someone who does, this movie hurts. This movie hurts because of the acting, it was so well-executed that it made watching it hurt. Marion exhibits many features of a narcissistic mother. She loves her daughter but is envious of her daughter at the same time for what she can’t be. She blames her status, her life, and her ability to not control any of those things on her daughter. This resulted in Lady Bird existing in a pool of… anxiety.
Throughout the film, and how the Daughters of Narcissistic Parents exist is in a pool of anxiety. They assume their mother hates them, they assume they aren’t worthy of love or anyone’s affection, and they can’t make decisions on their own, and that remains shown throughout Lady Bird. Marion ignoring her daughter is a prime example of this; showcasing that she is forcing her daughter to resent herself for being and doing something for herself is wrong. Lady Bird is a character, a wonderful character, and for her mother to not appreciate that and force Lady Bird to beg is sad. However, the acting that both actresses provide is outstanding. It gives so much to the performance of the scenes, especially the ones that exhibit this Disorder.
“Some People Aren’t Built Happy, You Know”
Everyone wants to get out of the town they live in, right? Sacramento, such as any town, is the town where Lady Bird resides in. I especially love the microscope of 2002 Sacramento. As someone from that area, it resides in a special place in my heart. You get some of the best cinematography of the film when they are showcasing what and who Sacramento is. The story of Lady Bird is an elegant one, of course, but you do get more than that. The concept of status and growing up in a place where you didn’t fit with anyone. Maybe you had hand-me-down clothes, you didn’t have a nice car or a nice house, and subconsciously you made fun of yourself for that. You get the sense of finding yourself in yourself, not in your siblings, not in your mother, in yourself.
To want to get out of your hometown is normal. But to appreciate your hometown is a whole different concept. In order to truly leave your hometown, you have to appreciate it for what it is. No matter the town, it’s beautiful, it’s yours, and it made you… well you. That is what Lady Bird teaches us as well. The place you come from, whether it be rich or poor, is yours. Now, Marion’s actions throughout the film are unforgivable and problematic at best, but realizing that you have to leave and separate yourself from the issue is important. The phone call at the end of the film proves that you have to leave the situation and the person in order to see how much you care about them. Not many people know this, and it is important to showcase it. If Lady Bird can do it, so can you.
“Being Successful Doesn’t Mean Anything In & Of Itself”
If you want to watch a powerful film, watch Lady Bird. It is exciting, challenging, and important. Saoirse Ronan, who played Lady Bird, truly showcased a fantastic character for this film. It is hard to find the main character that shapes the narrative and doesn’t let anyone do it for her. In turn, that should be kudos to the writer or as well, so thank you, Greta Gerwig. You have created an immaculate film to be praised for many years to come. It is important to showcase problematic families because, at the end of the day, people who have them feel included.
They are not always seeing a parent that loves and appreciates their child because they don’t have that. It’s important to showcase that not all parents should have been parents, but that’s… okay. You learn to adapt, live, and continue with your life as best as you know how. This is something you don’t learn without therapy and that Lady Bird has taught you. You can watch Lady Bird now on Amazon Prime if you are so inclined, and I hope you are.
LADY BIRD BY GRETA GERWIG (A24, 2017/2018)
BUY IT! (Check our review schedule for what that means): Lady Bird is a beautiful film written and directed by Greta Gerwig from 2017. If you love coming-of-age stories, you will love Lady Bird.